Financial Freedom! From Your Kids?

2012 is a transformational year. This is the year to seriously put a plan in place to become and remain debt free. When we think about debt we usually talk about things like mortgages, cars, clothes and things. We also talk about credit card debt and other types of loans. There is another type of debt we need to look at and become free from. Our kids. What! Not those little darlings we brought into the world.

This week I had an aha moment. My grown children owed me and my husband money for a variety of things. Cell phones, gas, hair. A dollar here, 30 dollars there. “I’ll pay you back mom” they say. When I ask there’s some mumbling that goes on but I never get anything. I was feeling the stress of being a bill collector. I was complaining, feeling unappreciated and wondering where I went wrong. Then my moment. I realized I love my children very much and want the very best for them. I also realized I was part of the problem. I was disabling my children’s ability to be self sufficient, responsible citizens. By not allowing my children to stand on their own and fall if they need to, I am stunting their growth as a human being. After all we didn’t we learn by our mistakes?

Which do you think is worst? Should we take care of all of our grown adult children’s needs or let them live by their decisions both good and not so good?

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Thanksgiving! Was it over before it began?

Wow! Thanksgiving has come and gone. This is my favorite holiday because it’s all about the 3 F’s.  Family, Friends and Food.  I love it. I have been cooking dinner for this holiday for over 25 years.  I usually have anywhere from 25 to 40 people and I make enough so that everyone can eat, take food home and still have enough for my family to have leftovers. 

This year something new happened.  The stores opened at midnight, Some as early as 10pm. Is this the new trend?  Will it be Black Thursday evening?  Hold on!  When I was growing up I remember the day after Thanksgiving started the first day of the holiday season.  This year the mall even had its Christmas tree up by mid November and I hadn’t even started shopping for my food yet.
 
People now had to leave their families earlier to go to work or to get ready to shop. What time will they open next year? After all, sales were up!
I, for one do not want to see this trend continue.  Family is the heart and soul of our culture.  Shopping is not. When the last person left my house, we all felt good, we had renewed relationships and left refreshed.  I look forward to Thanksgiving next year but I hope that we remember what the holiday is really about.  The 3 F’s. 
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Naomi Jones – Life Coach RN
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