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Tips for the Emotional Spender!

Emotional spending has two basic components. One is when
you spend money on things that are not needed or really wanted.  The second is when you spend money because you
are unhappy or stressed out. Uncontrolled emotional spending can lead to
financial ruin.  To make better financial
decisions, it is important to understand and manage our emotions.       

Emotional triggers come from external and internal sources.  External influences like advertisers spend
millions of dollars appealing to your emotions so you will buy their products.  Manufacturers have influenced our society by
promoting holidays and all kinds of reasons to spend money.  Holidays like Valentine’s Day (to prove you
love someone), Easter, Christmas and even back to school have become commercialized
for big sales days.  Today more women
work outside the home and we are made to feel like we must compensate for not
being there.  So we buy our children
things.  These factors increase emotional
spending by making us feel ‘bad’ if we don’t.  

We can limit advertisers influence on our spending.  Here are a few things you can do:

Stay out of the Malls

Opt out of credit card offers  

Sign up for the Do Not Mail Registry 

Install an ad blocker on the computer

Unsubscribe to emails from stores and catalog mailings

Block TV sites like QVC, the Shopping Channel, etc…

  Internal factors and tips for women who are
spending emotionally.

1.  Self
esteem issues- not feeling special.
 When you don’t get the respect and
recognition from others you feel you deserve, you decide to give it to yourself
by shopping.  When you take care of everyone
else and don’t take care of yourself on a regular basis, you then feel like you need to do something for yourself even if the item purchased
is not needed. 

Tips – Get in touch with your feelings.  Just before you spend money ask yourself; Am
I feeling less than?  Often women don’t
ask for what they need from others. 
Getting better communication skills and managing your environment will
give you a sense of control and power.  When
we have control we become powerful and will make good decisions in our lives
and our finances. 

2. Stress-
We all react to stress differently. 
The brain and our hormones play a big part in how we feel and react
to stress. There are actual changes in the brain that occur when we spend
money. The elation we may get from shopping only provides temporary relief
to stress. We must deal with the cause of the stress and find other ways
to deal with your emotions.  Do a
check up from the neck up! 

Tips    Understand
how you react to stress personally.  Try
replacing spending money with other things you like to do.  Exercising, dancing and spending time with a
friend or family.  Do things that don’t
cost money. Go to a park. There are plenty of free resources.  Seek them out!  Watch out for emotional triggers. Ask
yourself, am I angry? Stressed?  Lonely? If
so handle that emotion before spending money!

3.  Buying
on impulse
You go in the store for one thing and then purchase five other
things.  These impulses can wreck a
budget if you’re not careful.  Rationalization
is part of impulse buying.  You tell
yourself “If I don’t buy it now I will not get the opportunity again”. Purchasing
things that you know you can’t afford. 
The use of credit cards allows this reasoning to flourish.  

Tips – Go to stores with a list.  Stick to it! 
Take a friend with you who will hold you accountable for what you say
you are going spend.  Make a decision to
give yourself at least 24 hours from the point of looking to the point of
buying.  Leave credit cards home and
carry only the cash you mean to spend.

Have a budget and follow it.  Budget for
necessary expenditures and a little emotional spending. If you can’t
afford it, don’t buy it! You don’t want to incur excess debt. Keep track of
your spending.  $1 here and there adds
up.  Too many small bills can go
fast.  Did you ever notice what happens
when you break a $20?

I want women to live
smarter not harder. Emotions influence the way women spend money. By taking
control of your environment and your feelings you can pay your bills and exercise
power over your finances.  With this
information we will create a better future for ourselves and our children.  It’s all about financial intelligence and being
powerful women.


What’s going on with your money?

With all this talk about the impending national debt
default, it brings up so many financial questions in our own lives.  Our personal finances are reflected in the
way our cities, states, federal and countries operate theirs.  We’re spending too much, saving too little,
giving away money without regard to its return. Our personal finances are in
disarray. We feel like we’re working for nothing, living from paycheck to
paycheck and robbing Peter to pay Paul. 
Our children are coming back home sometimes because they can’t make it.  What are we to do?  We all need to look at the future as well as
the present when we organize our finances.

As a coach, I want to help people get their
personal finances organized and profitable. Having your finances together will
relieve stress, enhance relationships with our spouses, children, and friends
and help create purpose in our careers.  Many
great changes in history have started from ground up! Why can’t our
finances?  Let’s look at some ways we can
start to recapture our sanity in relationship to our money.

There is no shame in not having a lot of money. When you carry the
shame it zaps your energy. Makes you feel like depressed.  Makes you want to spend money like you
perceive others do without consequence.  This then becomes a vicious cycle. 
I’m a sucker for a sale. But do I need it or do I just want

Most baby boomers grew up knowing their parents may not have been able to “give” them everything. So what we did was PLAN on taking care of ourselves. We knew there may be no help around.

Part of a plan is to
  1. Create a Livable budget.
    Livable is the key. Don’t be so strict you can’t follow it.
  2. Distinguish between ‘needs’
    and ‘wants’.  Sprinkle your budget
    with reasonable wants. 
  3. Track your spending.  You would be amazed at how much money is
    ‘wasted’.  Those cups of coffee and
    bagels everyday can add up.

There are many other things we can do which I will cover in
future blogs. What makes your budget “Livable?”